maybe boring is preferable

so i really wasnt complaining about my marriage. on the contrary. but even if i longed for excitement, which i dont, i read some of my sisters blogs and come away with a sadness that is disquieting. i usually read the blogs and then sit motionless for a few minutes trying to reabsorb and assess what ive just read. i wish i knew what to do to help these sisters. i have always known that men are heartless, many of them anyway. but the husbands of these sisters.....how do they get to the point that they are at in life now? how do you step on your wife and dust your feet on her. how do you lose yourself in the moment, in the heat? what makes a man become so inconsiderate and irresponsible?

God help all of you because, Allahu alim, it could be me one day.


i wish all of you ladies knew that i read your blogs and ache for you...obligations, meandering muslim, blossoms of thought, my life as a muslim and a few more.

my husband and i

we are probably the worlds most boring couple. we rarely go out except to have a meal. once in a blue moon a movie. we stay cooped up in our bedroom watching cnn, fox news, discovery, history channel, national geographic. we cook together or one of us cooks for the other. we make a big pot of coffee and bring the other his or her morning, noon, afternoon, night cup. i dont drink hot tea too much so i brew a cup for him. we discuss each other, our jobs, our marriage, the family, ALOT of politics and news. sometimes we turn the tv off....he reads his books that are beside his side of the bed and i read a book from my side. generally its an islamic book, but our tastes differ radically. we go online...me on my desktop, he on his laptop. sometimes sitting side by side. sometimes we both watch things on the same screen.....things that we both enjoy. barack obama speeches for one!! we love him. we pray together, he is my imam. i stand behind him.

oh yeah we argue too, not as much as we did when we first started living together (after our marriage i mean). we have both learned to let things ride alhamduliilah.

so see, we dont have a fabulous life. well yes we do. we have a very decent life. we suffered alot in the beginning, we've been through some tortuous events but it has made us a better couple.

subhanallah.