Sunday, January 18, 2009

my day in court

my day in court did not go in my favor. by the coming weekend, im sure ill have orders to move from our home. the home that my ex was so determined to have. he was living the american dream and wanted bigger and better. hey back then it was cool. together we could afford it and more! but alone? no. no i couldnt do it alone. between losing his income, no financial assistance from him at all after he left and me losing hours at work, im on the verge of being homeless. i have one week to come up with the monies that i owe "corporate headquarters". lol sounds daunting doesnt it.

of course ill try to do just that but, well......

but, even if we lose our home i still thank God for everything i do and dont have. He never promised us an easy life on this earth. we are forever tested.

in surah (chapter) 2 - al baqarah (the cow), verses 155 and 156 say

"Be sure we shall test you with something of fear and hunger, some loss in goods or lives or the fruits (of your toil), but give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere. Who say, when afflicted with calamity: "To Allah We belong, and to Him is our return"

im trying to patiently persevere but its so hard. i just keep saying alhamdulillah, alhamdulillah though im really afraid.

its hard for me to admit publicly that im afraid. i still dont tell my children that. theyve always looked up to me for answers and decisions and ive always, somehow, come through for them. inshallah i will now also.

at this point, i have 3 of my children living with me. my oldest son moved back in a few weeks ago, brittany came back and of course the little one. im trying to think what to do with everyone in the event i have to leave the house.

alhamdulillah, alhamdulillah.


  1. I'm sorry about losing your home. I've had that happen to me as well. We lived in a shelter last year in the summer, and didn't get our own place again until October.



  2. yeah i absolutely shudder at the thought of having to go to a shelter if thats what we have to youngest child has never experienced any hardship as my older children did. i vowed that she would never do without...well, i guess my ex didnt feel the same. but if thats where we have to go then thats where we have to go.

    thanks anisah.

  3. OMG Jana my thoughts and prays go out to you at this very difficult time. I wish I could help you. With Obama my man as new president I think he has been given money from senate to help out homeowners from for closure. In SA it takes time to evict people from there homes, all legal avenues have to be followed to the letter.
    The bank cannot just repossess without giving owner a chance to make arrangements to get the arrears up to date either by refinancing and taking mortgage over a longer period, if all else fails, it then goes to public auction by bank and once that has happened owner given about 3months to vacate, but in SA we don't have shelters, so if you have no friends or relatives to fall back on you are literally in the streets. In the case of renting properties tenants are protected as well up to a certain point, if a tenant falls on hard times and hus lease has expired it is very difficult for owner to get him out it is a long court battle for owner at the moment we are in that position, what with my husband having heart attack and the state of economy
    although every month we pay our rent which is 7grand but we have fallen behind now this month and they want us out end of feb, they want him to sign a letter to that effect, I told him under no circumstances must he sign it because then they can evicit us they have now given us till end of march but he must sign letter, of course we want to pay, but we don't even have money for food so I so relate to your predicament. If we choose to be nasty we can insist they find us accommodation and pay our deposit and 1st month rent and our moving costs, but we are not those sort of people and want to pay our way, I must just put my trust In God and believe we will come out of it. So please Jana hang in there, there must be similar grounds in USA to cover you, your husband ran off and left you there has to be some sort of compassion from the banks this would be a good topic to write in to Oprah about, you are a nurse and how Oprah loves teachers and nurses you will not believe, I am registered with her website and got an invitation to send her any question I wanted to be discussed on her show as I am SAfrican I feel it is not up to me to ask her anything even though she has a school for girls in SA and loves my country, maybe u should sign up and lets get America talking about this problem, woman cannot just loose there homes especially working nurses who do so much for people at such low wages. Where there is a will there is a way.
    Hugs Terri

  4. asalaam alaikum jana,

    What about letting people know a paypal sccount address in case some of your readers would be able to donate to help you out. Even if you can't get enough to cover what's needed for the house, maybe you could get something to work with.

  5. I'm so sorry Jana. My prayers are with you.

  6. Jana I'm really sorry for all the drama you've been through lately. I guess though when you hit bottom, then fall through the bottom, there's only one place left to go, and that's up!

    Things have to get better, because I don't think they can get worse.

    I'm not one much for prayer but I'll keep you in my thoughts and my fingers crossed.

  7. thanks guys...just 3 more days then im doomed i guess lol. im trying to not let it get the best of me. the ex txtd me yesterday asking to come home and "save the home"..erm dude, its too late. you should have wanted to "save the home" a long time ago.

    hey angry, a crossed finger will do just as well!!! (p.s. kick those guests for me, i didnt want to say that in your blog lol)